I want to know what the bible (God) has to say about a husband who encourages, influences, and supports a daughter disrespecting her mother. I am so tired of my daughter disrespecting me I want nothing to do with her. Please tell me what the bible (God) says about discontinuing contact with a disrespectful, ungrateful, and hateful daughter. My daughter has a hard time supporting herself and wants me to support her and her daughter.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4)
This covers both the father's responsibility, and the child's. The father should raise a child to be respectful to both parents and to obey God. Children should be respectful and obedient (the parallel passage in Colossians 3:20 says "in all things") to both parents. When the parents disagree on something, the child is still required to be respectful to both.
That is what the Bible says. It sounds, though, like some family members may not care what the Bible says. If that is the case, they are not likely to follow the above commands. That, then, is something that you may just have to live with, unfortunate as it may be.
The Bible doesn't really say anything that I could find about discontinuing the relationship. The Law of Moses provided that a child who was so disrespectful as to strike a parent was to be put to death (Exodus 21:15). That would be the ultimate form of discontinuing the relationship, but it is not an option today. If you cut off all contact with your daughter, you also must remember that you would be cutting off your granddaughter as well. Only you could decide whether it would be worth that.